Portfolio: Adult Dolls
Mama – AKA – Mrs. Punching Bag
Unfortunately there is a devolved state of self-esteem that will make a person feel as if they are responsible for being abused. They will feel as if they provoked the abusive response, and even apologize for it. They want to be in that relationship, regardless of what they must endure.
The honeymoon phase — First, the abuser is ashamed of his behavior. He expresses remorse, tries to minimize the abuse and might even blame it on the partner. He may then exhibit loving, kind behavior followed by apologies, generosity and helpfulness. He will genuinely attempt to convince the partner that the abuse will not happen again. This loving and contrite behavior strengthens the bond between the partners and will probably convince the victim, once again, that leaving the relationship is not necessary.
She doesn’t leave because she values her family. She wants to give up the violence and abuse, not the man and the marriage. Her socialization tells her to stand by her man, that marriage is not a bed of roses, that she should stick it out for better or for worse, and that she has to take the bitter with the sweet. She buys in to her being part of the problem. It is her job to make it work. She works hard at adapting and adjusting; if she does not make it work, she is a failure. She may wonder how she will make it without him. Women on their own with children have tough economic problems. He may have threatened to kill her if she leaves, or take the children, or do some other terrible thing. If she is with him, at least she knows where he is and what she has got. After a killing spree by a man in Arkansas, women left shelters and went back to husbands. If she leaves, she will have the unknown. As long as she holds out hope, she will be in there pitching to adjust, adapt, and make it better. (Source – CBS News)
Verbal abuse may include aggressive actions such as name-calling, blaming, ridicule, disrespect, and criticism, but there are also less obviously aggressive forms of verbal abuse. Statements that may seem benign on the surface can be thinly veiled attempts to humiliate; falsely accuse; or manipulate others to submit to undesirable behavior, make others feel unwanted and unloved, threaten others economically, or isolate victims from support systems.
In Minnesota – 2011 twelve women died by gunshot. Dawn Anderson, Tabitha Belmonte, Cintia Bustos, Kandace Dunn, Abigail Fedeli, Kimberly Grew, Laura Hulke, Stephanie Maxam, &Nicole Meier, Linda Norman, Katherine Pohjonen, & Rondy Sorgatz. (Source – Minnesota Coalition For Battered Women)
Rapist Typology: In 1979, Dr. Nicholas Groth and H. Jean Birnbaum developed a profile of several types of assault, and identified subtypes of men who rape women: Anger Rapist. Persons is this category are believed to commit rape in part as a means of expressing anger and hostility that has built up over time.